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So… some of you know me as an artist, and some of you know me as a songwriter. A few of you may also know me as a hotrod, hunk or studmuffin but that’s for another blog (*brushes shoulder off) lol!! I joke… I joke… But seriously, I was in the studio the other day doing some writing for another artist and there was an additional writer there. This writer had a young lady with him who pretty much sat there for 9 hours looking cute. Now, I don’t like to talk about people’s children so I won’t call her names but for the sake of this blog let’s just say call her a “writing spectator” shall we? Any hoo… She flipped through magazines, texted, made a phone call here and there, flirted with the men in the room, etc… BUT… one thing I did notice, to my surprise, she would pull that writer to the side and give him suggestions on the songs. I don’t know how many of you know how Publishing/Royalties works but… Publishing is, pretty much, the money that is made off of the sale of music and/or whenever the music is featured on radio, video, commercials, movies, etc… Anyone who owns a piece of the song (or had substantial input) gets paid if/when a song generates these Royalties. Stay with me, y’all…

I say all of that to say, what if this grou… oops, I mean “writing spectator” was smart enough to wiggle her tight clothes and over sized implants into studio sessions, and give enough (substantial) input on enough songs that generated Publishing/Royalties, she could make a career doing that and maybe not even have to exchange bodily fluids with anyone (Not saying she has). A good friend of mine, who got shot and killed in Philly about 8 years ago, kinda sorta got into the game that way. He had a few relationships that would allow him to hang out in studio sessions while certain big name artists were writing/recording. He had enough charisma and personality that he was able to give input here and there and not seem intrusive. It got to a point where these artists would request his presence and he made a pretty decent living from writing hooks and some of the lyrics for some of our favorite Hip Hop/R&B artists.

Now, ladies… I’m not suggesting that you go and get your lip-gloss poppin’ and squeeze yourselves into some undersized outfit and hit up the next studio session that you can find. But I am saying, that there is plenty of evidence in our society that promotes, endorses, and co-signs being a groupie, doing the happy horizontal just for a check, and/or even marrying just for the come up and it doesn’t have to be that way. I’m not dumb enough to overlook the fact that this is a male dominated industry (as are most industries) and you will be tested, and sexually propositioned (directly or indirectly) but I just figured I’d through an atypical perspective at you, whether you’re a grou… oops, I mean a “writing spectator” or not.

Something tells me that the sales of leggings, perfume, lip gloss, pens and writing pads are mysteriously gonna go through the roof this week, lol! Oh, and do me a favor and take a listen to “FLY GUY” over there to the left. Feedback is welcomed…

-Kel Spencer

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So, we’re all familiar with things like NBA All-Star weekend, International O’s Cancun Jumpoff (Memorial Day), Super Bowl weekend, Bike week, Ski Trips, and even throwbacks like Greek Fest and Black College weekend. These are all events that draw large crowds of people in hopes of great night life, entertainment, laughs, networking socializing, Ray Ray Ray…

I’ve been an athlete and sports fan all of my life and I’ve never (1) booked a flight, (2) booked hotel stay, (3) bought a Super Bowl ticket, (4) shopped for outfits and then headed out to a Super Bowl. If a guy like me has never done that, what would make a woman who probably can’t even name 3 players playing in the Super Bowl, want to go through that process? What would make a woman, who complains about the cold, want to go on a ski trip? I know good and well why us men go to these events but what would make a woman, whose favorite player is Lebronze from the Oakland Cabaneers, want to all of the sudden head to NBA All-Star weekend?

Year after year I watch this happen. Year after year I get asked, “Huh? You’re not going to Cancun?!? Why not?!?” I look at the pics, and watch the youtube clips and hear the stories, even drop off/pick up friends to and from the airport for these functions and the whole 9, and I never see anything that makes me want to book a flight, book hotel, go shopping, and head out there. Maybe it’s just me. But my questions are:

(1) What makes women want to go to these events?

(2) Given the nature of these events, why do women have a hard time understanding why their boyfriends/husbands (who probably did or still do attend these events) Don’t want them going?

(3) How does a woman who is hardly a sports fan, defend herself when being called certain things for going to these events? and

(4) When’s the next one?

Nah! I’m saying… I might.. I might.. just ya know..  go and do my.. ya know..my own research and see what the hype is all about, lol! TALK TO ME, PEOPLE!!!!!

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-Kel Spencer

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There are some women who just so happen to have 1 or 2 or maybe 3 men in their past who are in the entertainment field. These are men who they had a genuine attraction to and the men had a genuine attraction to them. Yes, it does happen…

THEN… There are women who are at the other end of the spectrum. These are the women who get called ONLY when this entertainer comes to town. These are the women who are referred to when the entertainers friends ask questions like, “Yo Dawg, You think she’ll let me jumpoff too?” These are the women who are attracted to the IDEA of being with this man, just as much as (if not more than) being with the man himself. These are the women who like the image of money, respect, influence and power that this man gives off. These are the women who ignore the good guy who genuinely likes them, and gravitate towards the dude who has them on a list of chicks he can call. These are the women who get sent to voicemail when the celebrity is with his wifey IF… IF they even get his direct number. TRUST ME, I know this scenario and all of its angles & dimensions VERY WELL. I only speak on what I know. I’ll leave it at that.

That brings me to my question. Is it wrong for a guy to ask a woman, “Have you ever dealt with a guy in entertainment?” I mean, let’s be honest… Super Stars and Celebrities and Athletes, etc… can often take advantage of people and opportunities that the average Joe cannot. The average Joe probably doesn’t want to feel like the woman who he places on a pedestal is the same woman who was just washing her panties in the hotel room pedestal sink of Mr. Celebrity.  Therefore, is it wrong for a guy to be uncomfortable with the fact that his future wife might’ve been the same chick who was just going extra hard to wait outside the locker room for his favorite athlete? Is it wrong for a guy to want to make sure that the woman he’s attracted to is not the same woman who was the, “Yo me and the fellas are hungry, bring us some food to the studio. And wear that tight thang… And Hurry Up” girl? Is it wrong for a guy to make sure that even if she had dealings with a guy in entertainment, at least the dealings are something that he can stomach and not cause him to look at her like the groupie images we see on TV?

Or should the guy just mind his business and not ask at all? What about the Reverse… Should women ask about men in this regard too?!?  AND!!!! Does this mean that we should all pay more attention and maybe even raise the standards of the how we date since there’s a chance that the right one may come along and me turned off by the foolery of our past? I’m Just asking…

-Kel Spencer

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