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#SPENCERISM- Pray for #TeamCancun

Posted: May 25, 2011 in Just Sharing...
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If you’re like me, you have droves of friends and family headed out to Cancun this week for the homie, O International’s, Annual Cancun Jumpoff. If you’re like me, you have friends who have been shopping, and saving money, and working out, getting themselves prepared for this annual event!

I never push my spiritual beliefs on anyone but I just want all of us to pray for our loved ones (and ourselves for whom it applies) while they’re out there. Let’s ask that it be a joyous event, full of fun, and great weather, and good times. It’s unfortunate, that because of the size of my network, I hear some of the not so fortunate stories of what happens at these events. Pregnancies that lead to abortions and/or fatherless children, contracted STD’s and STI’s, hospitalizations, injuries stemming from drunkery and being under the influence, rape, and a few other things. Fortunately, the Good & Happy stories out weigh the not so good stories by a landslide but I would love it of the not so good stories didn’t even occur.

Speaking of my network, I happen to know a few Mexicans. Some of whom do not necessarily have the most “positive and law abiding” past. They have mentioned Mexican plans and plots to kidnap Americans in exchange for ransom and due to an underlying bitterness towards America and our border policies that are not in favor of Mexicans. Again, some of you may only think of Cancun as it pertains to the Fun & Sun, and that’s the way that we all like to imagine it… That’s the way that we’d all hope vacations turn out. But the reality of it is, there are always things lurking, and always blind spots in our vision, especially when Fun & Sun is all that we’re thinking about.

So again, if you would be so kind, please send up a prayer to the Sky Chief asking that our friends (and ourselves for those of us who are going) be covered, protected, and Blessed with wisdom in their decision making while they have fun and get a chance to get away from the everyday hustle. I’d appreciate that…

Just thinking about some of the things out there that are against us, makes me think of  a track that I did called “Just Wanna Be Heard” Featuring Masta Ace & Flo Blitz. It’s on The Spencer Code Mixtape. Feel free to download it for FREE ~> HERE <~ And of course, I’d love to hear your feedback….

Oh, and are y’all sharing these with your peeps and asking them to subscribe? If not, let’s get that poppin!! Thanks, Family…

-Kel Spencer

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#SPENCERISM- Penis & Panty Protection

Posted: May 19, 2011 in Just Sharing...
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Am I the only one who has been in the situation, where you think to yourself, “Man if only I didn’t sleep with such and such, they would make a great partner for my best friend who’s single“? OR “I have a friend who’s really a good person and I want to introduce them to so snd so because I think they’d make a good match but I already smashed so & so, therefore that’s a no go“? Am I the only one? Man oh man, I’m glad God found me, I was the worst, smh…

Anyway, I think that we should start promoting the Penis & Panty Protection Plan! “What’s that,” you say? I’m glad you asked… That’s when we look at a person that we have the opportunity to sleep with, who is a great person but we just know that we’re never going to be a couple, so we decline doing the Happy Horizontal with them. Woah Woah!!! Now, I know some of you just can’t turn down sex… And I understand but hear me out…

Ideally, it would be great if we all just stuck with God’s standard for sex and we practiced sexual purity (which I’ll touch on later) but since some of you are not quite there yet, the least you can do is look out for your friends and family. There are millions… literally MILLIONS of people walking around wishing that they had a good person in their life to possibly be in a relationship with. And I know for a fact, just from what I see in my own circle, that a lot more introductions and “hook ups” could be made if some of those one night stands and quick Cancun jumpoffs (no pun intended) didn’t happen lol. Most of you reading this can think of a person (or people) who you’ve slept with, knowing good and well that you would never be a couple, who now would make a great partner for one of your single friends/family members. But because that person knows where your birthmark is OR where that mole with the hair coming out is on your body OR how flexible you are, you wouldn’t feel right trying to hook them up with your peeps! But if you had the Penis & Panty Protection Plan in place, then who knows, maybe your friend/family member might be on their way to Happily Ever After!

Of course this is easier said than done because most people are horn dogs, I get it lol. But it is a thought! And for those of you who are trying to take some of the steps that I personally have taken, in trying to clean up your sex life and calm down, and get a hold of yourselves lol, I’d suggest 2 books. The book for the fellas is called EVERY MAN’S BATTLE By Stephen Arterburn. And if you’re not married yet try EVERY SINGLE MAN’S BATTLE. I actually own both as well as the work book…

NO WAY am I perfect but it’s an everyday process (with slips and falls at times) that I’m involved in and trust me, I am a looooooong way from the times when I need to be applying the Penis & Panty Protection Plan, lol!! And for the ladies, your book is EVERY (SINGLE) WOMAN’S BATTLE By Stephen Arterburn & Shannon Etheridge.

So, again! If you’re trying to clean up your act, then you have your start up tools but if you still wanna be out there just slinging that thing away, at least be mindful of your friends and family in who you select to slang and bang with, ya know?

I did a track called “Adam’s Rib/Look Atcha” that I think sets the tone for this type of post. It’s actually the song that we cut away to in the middle of the Uggs To Hugs Video. Listen to a FREE snippet of “Adams’s Rib/Look Atcha” on itunes, or rhapsody.  If you wanna spend a WHOPPING .99 to buy it, please feel free. You can even avail yourself to the Entire Project via download OR have a hard copy with artwork and tracklisting and photos delivered to you via Amazon. It’s up to you.

Whether you do or don’t, I still need that feedback, people!!! C’mon, you know how we do!! LoL

-Kel Spencer

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#SPENCERISM- This ain’t Hate, It’s Love

Posted: April 27, 2011 in I just thought you should know
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You’re special. Yes, you! You’re special…

Every bone in your body… Every fiber of your being… Every hair on your head (and your back & ears for some of us lol!) has been numbered with precision. You are special. You have issues with weight. You have debt. You have a problem finding a suitable mate. You have don’t get along with the other parent of your child. You’re confused. You don’t know how to pray to or who to pray at all… But guess what, you’re still special.

“I can’t deal w/the fashion show and the DROVES of folks who ONLY go to church today so I never go to church on Resurrection Sunday. But y’all have a Blessed One! #Hallelujah” ~Kel Spencer

You live check to check. You had a dream as a child of where you wanted to be by now and you’re NO WHERE near that dream. You have an ingrown hairs. You have a health condition that you’re embarrassed to share and that you’d rather not have. You show up late for almost everything you attend but you could’ve sworn you woke up with enough head start time. You can never find anything to wear. But you’re special.

“Hey Fatty! I’m in the gym, what are you doing?” ~Kel Spencer

You just found out that your ex was cheating on you… even more than you thought. You just found out who your parents really are and there are some things about them that you HATE! You wish you were taller. You wish you were more lean. You wish your hair wasn’t doing what it’s doing right now. You wish you had more twitter followers. You wish you didn’t have that student loan… or child support… or that credit card bill every month because then you would really be a step closer to balling outta control But… you’re still special.

“When I hear one of my Ex’s is dealing with a No Good dude, I hate that my heart has to slap my mind on the shoulder like, “Stop Laughing, That ain’t funny!” Smh… #SorryGod” ~Kel Spencer

At the end of the day, you really don’t know the difference between a democrat, republican, or a liberal. You wish you finished college. You finished college and wonder what difference did it really make. You’re unemployed. You’re unhappily employed. Your friends borrow money from you and ask you to give them rides but when you need it in return there’s no one around to help. You’re still special though. You wish things were like they were when you were a kid. You wish relationships were like they were when we were kids… I like you… Do you like me? You do? Cool, so now we go together… SIMPLE! We’re all special.

“‎#SPENCERISM- He/She who wears shades in the club is either a retard or is at a level of coolness that a peasant like me shall never reach.” ~Kel Spencer 

You wish that you didn’t have to pay bills but you love the luxury that these services provide. Your crotch itches and you have to fart at the most inopportune times. You, just like me, have at least one major…

It’s not a disease… But we all suffer from it in some way, shape, or form. If you’re reading this, then I’m talking to you! If you’re reading this, please share this with at least 10 of your friends… friends who will actually read this because you definitely know 10 people who could use this right now. One of my own insecurities is in the area of family. I grew up in a loving home with 2 great parents and it was stripped from me right while I was at the doorstep of manhood. Right while I felt I needed that structure the most. There are people out there who NEVER had parents and have lived in waaaaaaaaay more harsh conditions. But in my own personal experience, that is a scar that may never heal, and has me in a place where I cherish relationships and can’t wait to be a husband and father. I believe there are many men out there who want the same but the colors of the world and our households have painted and tainted our manhearts the ugly shades of noncommitment, objectification, laziness, fear and the worst of all NON-KNOWINGHOWNESS. But any hoo… I place value on every friendship, every acquaintanceship, every business partnership, every internet homie, every bond that I have and may have in the future. Unfortunately, time, responsibilities and my own imperfections don’t allow me to deal with them all as precisely as I’d like but I value all of it. I give hand written thank you cards out at my events. I kiss babies. I shake hands. I reply to tweets. But at the end of it all, I still have insecurities and things that I’m dealing with… many of them were mentioned above, as I’m sure you can relate to as well. I say all of that to say, No matter how funny, light hearted, harsh, sarcastic, loving, or insightful it comes across… I do this out of love. Never lust… Never hate. It comes from an imperfect place… from an imperfect human… and travels through perfect time and perfect space to reach the hearts & minds of other imperfect humans. With all of that imperfection, I hope that we all can find some sort of perfection in all that we do with and for eachother. Because  we all have a seed of greatness planted within us that with the right amount of care… water… and time can grow into whatever it desires. Because we’re all special…

Yeah, even you… yeah, the one picking their nose while driving. Yup, even you too!

-Kel Spencer

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#SPENCERISM- Friend VS Ex-Jumpoff

Posted: April 12, 2011 in I'm Saying. I just wanna know
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Pardon me for going on a “relationship rant” lately but for some reason, Relationship topics have been weighing heavy on me lately. Maybe my biological man-clock is ticking or something, I don’t know… Anyway, I want to address you with a topic that is always both simple and complex at the same time. I know people who believe that a man and a woman can be friends and only friends and I also know people who believe that it is 100% Impossible for a man and woman to be platonic friends. I want to discuss this…

I recently posted the following question, “Ladies, if your man’s female friend needed him to help her move or move some furniture or put up a shelf in her home, etc… How would you feel about that?” (April 7th, 7:35pm Fam Page / Regular Page) There were mixed responses but a nice amount of the answers lent themselves to women not trusting the friendship between their man and his female friend. Now, that trust could stem from the fact that he’d have to be alone with her at her home, or it might stem from feeling like his female friend crossed the line by even asking when she could’ve simply asked another single man in her life, or it might even stem from the fact that the girlfriend is insecure, I don’t know!

The following example might make your stomach turn but I have actually been to weddings where I’m in the audience, sitting next to an ex-girlfriend of the groom who is up at the altar getting married. The groom and this ex-girlfriend are such good friends and have been only friends for so long (10+ years) that the groom never even bothered to tell his fiance about their sexual past. I’m not saying whether I agree with that or not, I’m just sharing what I’ve seen. And making it known that he probably didn’t tell his fiance for fear of having to let loose a friendship that is valuable to him. Again, I’m not saying whether or not that’s right or wrong… AGAIN, I’M NOT SAYING WHETHER OR NOT THAT’S RIGHT OR WRONG.

I’ve also seen situations where a girl has a “brother” or a very close male friend, and most people wouldn’t know that at one point in time, they did the “Happy Horizontal” or shared an intimate kiss. I even know a few women who (after many years) call the guy who de-virginized them their “brother,” because now they are friends and friends only, and have no urge at all to be anything more than just friends. I’ve even seen situations where a man and woman have children, and one of the Godparents is an ex of one of the parents, without the other parent even knowing about their sexual past, Why? Because all they see is the current friendship and it appears to be a happy, non-intrusive relationship. AGAIN, I’M NOT SAYING WHETHER OR NOT THAT’S RIGHT OR WRONG.

Now, I have also seen situations where a man and woman may have had a sexual encounter or a sexual relationship in the distant past, and now they are just friends. And they actually choose to share that with whomever they’re currently in a relationship with just so that no secrets are kept. I have seen that as well. AGAIN, I’M NOT SAYING WHETHER OR NOT THAT’S RIGHT OR WRONG.. In your opinion, do men & women have the ability to be friends and friends only, or is it a guaranteed, automatic that something sexual will happen in time, if given the right space and opportunity?

Your thoughts?

 

-Kel Spencer

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#SPENCERISM- Are we family?

Posted: June 26, 2010 in Maybe it's just me but ummm...
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I have next door neighbors who I love to death and at the same time I have cousins who I can’t stand. I know dudes that I’ve gone to battle with on the football field who I only speak to on Holidays but when we speak the love is there, while I have a couple of blood relatives who I feel funny around. Am I the only one who can relate? No pun intended…

I have friends who are more like family and I have “family” who are just as close to me as the cashier at the supermarket. I can totally understand that some family members will be closer to me than others and I can understand that some of my friends will be closer to me than some of my family members. What bothers me is the “family” members who have a sense of entitlement just because we share some of the same relatives… (Especially the ones who are my family by marriage) yet have NEVER displayed the “verb” part of family, Ever!

The phrase “Blood is thicker than water” really needs to come with some bullet points and an appendix because, unless I’m a weirdo, I have my own definition of family. And unfortunately/fortunately a lot of my family consists of people who do not have the same blood as me. I know this post is a bit random but I’m moving into a new space in life and in my career, I’m starting to see certain things happen in regards to my circle… In regards to my relationships and I just felt the urge to throw this out there to see if I’m bugging as it pertains to the word “Family.”

Talk to me…

-Kel Spencer

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