KELEIDOSCOPE

Either women are generally selfish on Valentine’s Day OR I need to expose myself to more women…

First off, I want to wish everyone a happy Post-Valentine’s Day! I also want to apologize for how long it’s been since my last post. As you know, I’m an artist first, so when duty calls I have to jump on it and that’s what I’ve been wrapped up in the most. But I apologize. Now let’s get down to business.

Whenever Valentine’s Day and/or a relationship’s Anniversary comes around, I tend to see more men actively involved in shopping and/or deep thinking and/or more of a hustle to prepare  a great day for their lady than I do women. Are there women out there who go all out for their man on these days? Of course there are! I know plenty of them. But it seems to me that I get more men coming to me saying, “Yo, If my girl is wondering what she should get me, tell her I want such and such…” or “Man, my girl got me the same ole such and such again.” Which shows me that the women are getting gifts and preparing something for the men but there’s a lack of thought and deeper meaning going into what these women are doing. And I know more females than males so that’s why it’s a bit disturbing. I actually posted the question on facebook and twitter yesterday in the form of “True or False: Women don’t really put much thought into what to get/do for their man on Valentine’s Day…“ And you can check out what was said… My Regular Facebook Page Or My Facebook Family Page.

It seems to me that food, lingerie, and sex were the most popular gifts from women to men. And women see no problem with that and some of them actually call cooking, and candles, and lingerie, and sex “Going All Out.” But in my opinion that is a good gift, and can make for an explosive evening but that doesn’t take very much thought. Now, I’m sure that some women always get flowers or always get candy from their man and if that’s true then I can feel your pain as well. I know for a fact that I have heard women say, “Valentine’s Day is for women, He shouldn’t get a gift from me on that day.” But I’ve NEVER heard a man say the inverse. I, personally, have been in situations where I’ve given a Valentine’s Day gift and got nothing in return. I didn’t feel like she was being selfish, since I didn’t do it for the purposes of getting something in return but it has happened. And to the credit of some of my supporters in the midwest, I know that you celebrate Sweetest Day which is a totally different case, so we’re obviously not talking about that. But in the large scheme of things, based on your own experience, and based on what you’ve seen here and on my Facebook wall, do you think Men are treated fairly on Valentine’s Day/Anniversaries? Or maybe you feel that men are treated more than fair and it’s the women who are treated unfairly. Talk to me…

Gimme your thoughts!!!!

-Kel Spencer