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Yeah, at first glance it kinda weirded me out a little bit too… No, but try this… As my song ASPIRATIONS is playing and the line “I wanna be your boyfriend” comes up, look hard and straight at the picture above, Bwuahahaha!! Ok, Ok…

Ok, so this is NOT a post about homosexuality or bi-sexuality or tri-sexuality or even my-sexuality, it’s about this new phenomenon called “BROMANCE.” Now don’t get me wrong, this isn’t a new topic but the intensity of it is rising at a rate that I don’t think any of us are realizing. Allow me to set the scene… It’s 10pm, on a Wednesday evening. There’s a group of guys at the bar after work and they’re having drinks, smoking cigars and watching the game. There’s 3 seconds left in the game, the score is tied and just before the buzzer, their team hits the game winning shot. They all stand to their feet, jumping up and down, hugging, and hi-fiving. At that point, the bartender lets them know that its last call and it’s almost time to close up shop. One guy does a light jog over to the coat rack, grabs his coat, gives the guys all hugs and handshakes and makes it known that he has to head home to his wife. The rest of the guys do the same thing though not quite as urgently. Then there’s that last guy who basically does not want to go home to his wife. He practically cries at the thought of having to walk through his front door and be greeted by his wife… Wanna know why? It’s because of a simple word… APPRECIATION.

Now, the word APPRECIATION is similar to the word RESPECT. They are both things that people should both give and get automatically (at a basic level) but your performance determines how much RESPECT and APPRECIATION people will continue to give you and show you. The problem is… Too many men aren’t real men which is why they often don’t get the respect and appreciation they feel that they deserve. But on the flip side, a lot of men… (I’ve been in this boat myself) go above and beyond in their relationships yet still don’t get the appreciation that they’d like in return. Uh Oh… wait, here goes the ladies thinking, “Well it’s the same way the other way around, Kel!” And this is indeed true but we’re talking about Bromance right now so back off, sister!

Like I was saying, Men gravitate towards where we feel appreciated. For example, a prostitute, stripper, mistress, and maybe even that woman down at the gym with the skimpy outfit, all visually and often verbally (Compliments, Flirting. etc…) show your man that they appreciate him. Granted, they may not be genuine with it but it sure feels like it! Maybe even more than you do… So he gravitates towards them. Your husband doesn’t want to throw away that old football jersey or his trophies that have been in the garage collecting dust, why? Because those are symbols of appreciation. He wore that jersey while a crowd was screaming his name. He received those trophies as a result of his athletic efforts being recognized.

If a man is worthy of respect and appreciation and his woman is not supplying him with it, he will seek that appreciation elsewhere and often in a group setting with his buddies… BROMANCE! Furthermore, the increase in Independent Women can cause an increase in overlooking how much your man needs to feel appreciated. Just keep this stuff  in mind.

So, if you happen to know a man who is heavily involved in John Madden marathons with his boys and/or extra hours at the gym taking back to back zumba classes, don’t be so quick to question his sexuality. He just might be an immature weed-smoking video game nut with a kinky spandex fetish… That’s possible. But he also might be screaming for the attention that his woman isn’t giving him so he resorts to…

Think about it… Oh, and fellas don’t think that if you don’t appreciate her she can’t get that elsewhere either, playa!!! Please feel free to share…

-Kel Spencer