Yup, it’s pretty much over…
Start pulling the sweaters and track jackets out. You might be able to get away with shorts and long sleeves for a couple more weeks but it’s pretty much a wrap. It was Hot, It was Fun, It was Quick (#Pause)… and now it’s over. Isn’t it amazing how the changing of a season… which we all knew would come, because it happens every year, can change your mood? Or your attitude? Or even things we think about? Pretty interesting stuff… And that is exactly why I want to focus on one of the most profound statements that I’ve heard in a long time. The statement came from a very good friend of mine and it goes like this:
“I cannot seriously commit to a person until I’ve dated them in each of the seasons.”
Now I must admit, upon hearing this, I initially had the forehead wrinkles while thinking, “What in the Dickens are you talking about?” but upon further review… This makes ABSOLUTE SENSE!!! It makes sense both literally and figuratively. Wanna know how? I’m glad you asked…
Literally- Winter, Spring, Summer and Fall each have their own distinct characteristics. Some people love the summer heat and during those months it’s almost impossible to rain on their parade because they’re in such a great mood. Then you have people, like some of my educator friends, who go through a bit of anxiety at the end of Summer because school is about to start and I’m sure that holds all kinds of emotions and thoughts. Some people love the Spring & Fall because there’s a balance in heat VS cool breeze. There’s more of a variety in what they can wear outside and the leaves and scenery just appear to be more colorful. And there are some wackos out there…. oops I mean, people out there who are in love with the snow and blistering cold weather (I guess you can tell which season I dislike the most lol). But a high point of the winter is that good ole cuffin’ lifestyle. You get to stay in and watch movies with hot drinks and warm food a nice pretty young lady wearing some stretch pants and your button down shirt who likes collar-bone kisses and she takes her hands and… I mean, I mean… ya know… Well, yeah that’s winter O_0 *Ahem, anyway….
Figuratively- People go through all types of seasons in their lives. You may go through a financial season in which you have more cash on hand than normal, and you feel good about that OR you might be struggling to make ends meet and the ends don’t seem like they want to meet… still and all that’s a season. A person might be going through an emotional season where they feel withdrawn from the world and maybe even from God. They may be battling depression or mood swings that aren’t the most pleasant. A person might be in the middle of a creative season where ideas are just flowing OR the opposite where they just can’t seem to come up with anything that works.
These are seasons of a person’s life that YOU need to be paying attention to when dating someone and BEFORE fully committing to them. It pains me to see how little people know about each other but call themselves in a relationship or engaged or even married!!! The feelings and emotions and whether or not they watch Basketball Wives with you and how much you like their dimples and whether or not they wear True Religions is all good but let’s smarten up. That first time a person says, “I love you” don’t be ashamed to (tastefully) ask them what their definition of love is. Joker, I need to know what you think love is before I just willingly accept it and progress with it. When a person is going through tough times watch how they respond to that adversity… Do they let you in? Do they share? Are they a total monster? Pay attention to all of that because you are not committing to just the good parts of a person. You’re committing to their totality of being. Welp, I just wanted to share a little Monday Mediation with my family… And I hope you share it with yours, I’m sure you know of somebody who can use this.
And I really want to congratulate my friend Mainee whose mouF this quote came from. She’s about to embark upon some new things and a new season in her life and I’m extremely happy for her…
Talk to me…
-Kel Spencer
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