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#SPENCERISM- Dear Shaunie O’neal

Posted: October 11, 2011 in I'm Saying. I just wanna know
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Basketball wives… You’re familiar with the show, yes? And I’m sure that by now you’re also familiar with the fact that it was created by Shaquille O’neal’s ex-wife, Shaunie. This show is a very interesting social “fixture” so to speak. I’m not really talking about the content of the show or the “who did whats” or the “why she said such and such,” I’m talking about the IDEA of the show. I’m talking about the vision and thought process behind the show long before it came to be. I’m talking about the motive and potential results of the show. In my network, I come across three types of people as it pertains to this show. The three types are below in the form of a short greeting letter. Meaning, If you could write a short letter to Shaunie what would it say? Which of the following three letters would best represent how you feel about the IDEA of Basketball Wives?#1 Indifferent/Nonchalant:

Dear Ms. O’neal…

I hope all is well with you and your family. I’ve seen a handful of episodes about these basketball wives. I personally don’t subscribe to it but there are some funny parts here and there. And it does give people some insight on what it’s like to live that life. I don’t really relate to it all and I think some of it is just a hot mess but there are glimpses of female bonding here and there as well as a “fly on the wall” point of view in regards to the lifestyle of the rich and famous so if it all works out for you then I guess you did your thing. Good Luck.

#2 Pissed/Concerned:

Dear Ms. O’neal…

Actually, I should call you Ms. Nelson since O’neal is NOT your last name anymore. But basically, I was always taught that a pimp was a person who A- lured another person in and/or appealed to their weaknesses and insecurities, B- found a way to get that person to share their most intimate and private attributes publicly, C- showed that person how to trade their “sharing” for compensation, hereby making them a prostitute and then, D- giving the prostitute a significantly smaller cut of the earnings while E- continuing this cycle as long as the prostitute can perform or remain relevant to the buyers. Can you please explain to me, based on the above definition, how you’re not pimping these sisters who obviously need more love, attention, and guidance than they do drinks, chit-chats and a TV slot. Please explain that to me how this isn’t a form of prostitution and low-level slavery, Ms. O’neal…

#3 Excited/Encouraging

Dear Ms. Shaunie O’neal…

Let me start by saying that there is nothing better than seeing a (black) woman doing her thing. I’m sure that you sit in meetings with mostly men and YOU are the shot caller. I love that! I also think that most of the women who date ball players get a bad rap, automatically. Your show allows the public to see just who these women are from the good, the bad, and the ugly. We all know your story and what happened between you and Shaq (well at least what the media has allowed us to know) and since you come from this world and have had to endure the pain of it while also tasting the fruit of its rewards, who better than you to provide the public with information & entertainment while also being compensated for it and establishing your own brand? PS… You need to get the Odom and Kardashian family involved in your show too! Keep doing your thing, girl!

After you read em, please forward this on to some friends, ask their opinion, and make sure they subscribe for free over there to the left. All you have to do is submit your e-mail address and with the events and give-aways that I’m doing over the next few weeks, it would be to your advatage if you did so. It’s that easy…

Anyway, Which letter would come from your pen… Or your keyboard…

-Kel Spencer

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#SPENCERISM- I Just Wanna Know Pt.1

Posted: September 29, 2011 in I'm Saying. I just wanna know
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Aight, so I always give you my opinion on certain stuffz, and things that are goinz on so now let’s do it in reverse….

I have my own opinion on these things but I’d like to hear yours. Most of you who subscribe to this blog are rather intelligent and I’m sure that I could learn something from a few of you so, I’ll ask you a question and then you give me your view-point, Deal? Deal…

Scenario #1- You go out to a restaurant. You see your best friend who has been married for about a year, out at this same restaurant. You were in their wedding. You gave a speech at the reception. You think that their spouse is a great match for them. Your best friend is sitting in a booth in the corner of the restaurant, hugged up with someone else. The best friend sees you… OR Let’s say they DON’T see you… What do you do? SHOOT!

Scenario #2- So… I’m on the train yesterday and there are these 2 guys sitting next to each other. They’re dressed pretty decent… pretty clean. A lady walked by with a nice shape and one of them looked at her just as long as I did. He then turned and looked at me with the “Wow, she’s friggin hot isn’t she?” look on his face and I nodded in agreement. A few stops later the other gentlemen reaches down to pick up his bag off the floor as this was his stop coming up and as he grabs his bag, he turns to the one who was admiring the woman with me and plants a 2-3 second tongue kiss on his lips. If my (future) child is with me and asks me about that, how does a person explain this in a non offensive and politically correct way? SHOOT!

Scenario #3- You are friends with a couple who is expecting. The entire time that you’ve known them, you’ve campaigned and made it known that when they have a child, You want to be the God-parent. Time goes on and you now have reason to believe that the male in this relationship may not be the actual father (In my Maury voice). You don’t have hard-core proof but certain things are being said by certain people and there is some doubt. This couple honors your wishes and asks you to be the God parent of this expected child. What do you say? SHOOT!

Scenario #4- Your family member wants to buy a car. You introduce them to someone who can make it happen. That person finds your family member the car they like at a discounted price of $5,000 instead of $7,000. They meet up and your family member only has $2,500 but agrees to pay the rest within a week. The dealer agrees to do so ONLY because this family member is YOUR family member. 2 days later the car is feeling a little “funny” and making noises so your family member feels that they shouldn’t have to pay the remaining balance since, in their eyes, the car isn’t running as well as they thought, but they want to keep the car. The dealer wants their money OR the car back and they are both running to you to play the referee since you put it all together. What do you do to help the situation? SHOOT!

Scenario #5- You’re out on a date with your significant other. They’re phone rings and it’s from a non-recognizable number. They answer and it’s obvious that they don’t know who it is. The person is making your mate play the “guess who it is” game and judging by your mate’s face and body language they’re both trying to figure it out AND getting a little fidgety and nervous. They start speaking in a bit of short-hand english with a bunch of “Mmm Hmms” and “Nuh Uhs” and “Yups” and then they end the call with “Yeah, erase. Yeah” When they hang up, they instantly start talking about something way left. Do you ask anything about it? Do you chalk it up as an awkward moment that they really had no control over since they weren’t the one who initiated the call so that can happen to anyone? What do you do? SHOOT!

Scenario #6- You meet someone who is in the same line of work as you. They are further along in that industry, more well-connected, and more established. You speak pretty often for about 2 weeks and then you both finally hang out. When you hang out, you make it known to them that you are interested in getting further in your career and you’d like their help with that. After that hangout, their contact with you decreases drastically. You see them a few months later at an event in which you are attending with people who this person would love to be in the company of. They run up on you with open arms and smiles and a desire to hang out again and the whole deal. What do you do? SHOOT!

Lucky Scenario #7- You hate pedophiles. They make your skin crawl. You feel like they should be jailed under the jail that’s under the jail. This is how you feel about them. Reason being, you were sexually abused as a child. You eventually vent to one of your older relatives about how you feel about them and how you feel about who abused you and how you feel about the entire situation. You confide in this relative because they love you, they’ve always been good to you, they’ve always been there for you and you know that their wisdom and older perspective is and always will be beneficial when you come to them for advice or to vent… You then find out that this relative is also guilty of indecent child sexual acts from 40-50 years ago. What do you do? SHOOT!

I just felt like engaging you all a little bit. I hope you don’t mind… Speaking of engaging, a good friend of mine, Holley Monelle, has a dope program that I know you all can enjoy. Check out this link for The Hall Pass Tour and if it’s your cup of tea, handle your handle or at least share it with some folks. But I’d love to see some of your feedback on today’s post…

-Kel Spencer

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#SPENCERISM- Same Sex Marriage

Posted: June 16, 2011 in I'm Saying. I just wanna know
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Uh Oh!!!!!!! Kel is picking on the Gay People!!! Uh Oh!!!!!

LoL!! No, not at all…

Before we start, let me give you a brief History/ Political Science review, Ready? Let’s Go…

People have choices and preferences. When they want to make their preference an actual law, they call this proposed law a BILL. They, then, send this Bill to legislature to be considered. If it is passed by the legislature and, in most cases, approved by the executive (President or Governor) it then becomes enacted into law, and is now called an Act or a Statute. Got that? Cool…

As of right now… The New York state Assembly (Legislature as mentioned above) approved same-sex marriage and the Bill is likely to face a vote in the Senate (Executive) TOMORROW (June 17th 2011), where it only needs support from ONE MORE senator to pass. If the Bill passes, same-sex couples could start marrying in New York as early as late July 2011. A recent Siena poll found that 58% of New Yorkers support same-sex marriage. Connecticut, Iowa, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, Vermont and the District of Columbia allow same-sex marriage RIGHT NOW, and several other states allow “Civil Unions.” FYI-  The first legal same-sex marriages in the United States took place in Massachusetts in 2004.

Now…  A hem…

I’m not even going to touch the “Gay” part of it. Notice, I haven’t used the term “Gay Marriage” and I won’t. I am a Christian. I am a believer in Christ. I own and read several Bibles. I am a Jesusian lol! And I also believe that because of that, some of you just might (or might not) be surprised by my views on the Gay aspect of Same Sex marriages. Maybe we’ll touch on that another time.

My issue with… Actually, I can’t even say it’s an “issue” because it’s not really that serious. I’ll say, my “hypothetical scenario & question” as it pertains to Same Sex marriage is; What’s to stop Johnny from Mexico who is STRAIGHT and Timmy from New York who is also STRAIGHT from marrying each other just so that Johnny can get his papers, then move to the states, to maybe eventually get a divorce and now Johnny is a citizen? Meanwhile, the whole time they’re both continuing in their heterosexual lifestyle with the women they might have just because their marriage wasn’t real but rather an “ARRANGEMENT?” Does that type of stuff dilute and discredit and devalue what marriage is supposed to be about? Or not? Does allowing Same Sex marriage further open the door to this type of activity? Or not?

While you think that over, and since we’re on the topic of relationships and love and all that jazz… I just want to remind you, we’re 2 days away! This Saturday, I’m Hosting #TheQuarterly in NYC at Studio 21. SORRY LADIES… Female tickets are SOLD OUT! You know what that means, Fellas!! I have a 50% off code that gets you in for just $20 when you click the link to buy your tickets. The code is simple, it’s KEL SPENCER. This is where you want to be on Sat June 18th at Studio Twenty One. Ladies, Don’t Hate!! Share this w/your male friends! Ticket Link ~>
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Ok, I’m about to go get this Banana French Toast poppin, y’all take it from here…

-Kel Spencer

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#SPENCERISM- Last Minute Freak Off

Posted: May 10, 2011 in I'm Saying. I just wanna know
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I was invited to a birthday party a couple weeks ago. The text read, “Wifey doesn’t want me to have a bachelor party so I’ll mix it with my Birthday Party. Join me at XYZ Strip Club on so and so date…” LoL! I thought that was hilarious. What was even funnier was the second text that read, “My bad for the mass text Kelz, I know you don’t do strip clubs but maybe you can come early, before the strippers arrive, and just bug out for a little bit.” We had a talk after those texts but the conversation got me to thinking…

Ladies, if your man/fiance wanted to get some sexual desires out of his system before getting married, how would you feel? Fellas, if your lady wanted to get some sexual desires out of her system (or maybe even some emotional desires) before getting married to you, how would you feel? I know some women who actually helped their man plan his bachelor party. She helped with the budget, the stripper coordination, she even made sure that there were condoms available at the party because (in her own words) “Boys will be boys but MY BOY just better know this is his last night as a boy and he’ll be a man… MY MAN… AND MY MAN ONLY, after this wedding.” But I’ve also heard women say, “If he wants to have sex with other women, or have threesomes, or tip strippers now, then he’ll still want to do it after the wedding. That ring is not going to change him. If he still has those desires then he’s not fit to be my husband.” My question to you is… Is there a difference between the desire to want to do certain things VS the actual ‘doing’ of these desires. Meaning, I know you can put a person in prison if you catch them robbing a bank or if you can prove that they robbed a bank. But can you put a person in prison because they want to rob a bank but they didn’t??

I’m a believer in Christ so I have my own personal views on sexuality and sexual standards of both the body and the mind… that pertain to single life and married life. So I have a pretty strong opinion about this matter that some of you will agree with and some of you won’t. But I would love to hear your thoughts AND your point of view on this matter.

I actually touch on the “Why do men cheat” topic  on the Salon Stories album. I know a lot of you have been hearing the name Salon Stories and still have no clue what it really means. I’ve been Blessed enough to be versatile in what I create so yes, the Fresh Prince of Brooklyn project is next up but you’re cheating yourself by not having the Salon Stories album hosted by MC Lyte, featuring Q-tip, Jesse Boykins III, Def Poets Shanelle Gabriel & Riva Flowz, Lydia Caesar, and many more. The music as well as the conversation peices on this album are timeless and needed.

You can get Salon Stories on itunes, rhapsody, or you can either download it OR have a hard copy with artwork and tracklisting and photos delivered to you via Amazon.

OH! And I’ve also teamed up again with Modern Day Matchmaker Paul Carrick Brunson and we’re doing another dating event on Sunday May 22nd at Strata in NYC. Check out the last one ~~> HERE  and for ticket information click ~~> HERE

But regardless, let’s not lose focus lol!! I’d still love your thoughts on this recent post… Lemme hear it!!!

Oh, and I heard the Birthday/Bachelor party was a Blast! LoL!!

-Kel Spencer

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#SPENCERISM- Friend VS Ex-Jumpoff

Posted: April 12, 2011 in I'm Saying. I just wanna know
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Pardon me for going on a “relationship rant” lately but for some reason, Relationship topics have been weighing heavy on me lately. Maybe my biological man-clock is ticking or something, I don’t know… Anyway, I want to address you with a topic that is always both simple and complex at the same time. I know people who believe that a man and a woman can be friends and only friends and I also know people who believe that it is 100% Impossible for a man and woman to be platonic friends. I want to discuss this…

I recently posted the following question, “Ladies, if your man’s female friend needed him to help her move or move some furniture or put up a shelf in her home, etc… How would you feel about that?” (April 7th, 7:35pm Fam Page / Regular Page) There were mixed responses but a nice amount of the answers lent themselves to women not trusting the friendship between their man and his female friend. Now, that trust could stem from the fact that he’d have to be alone with her at her home, or it might stem from feeling like his female friend crossed the line by even asking when she could’ve simply asked another single man in her life, or it might even stem from the fact that the girlfriend is insecure, I don’t know!

The following example might make your stomach turn but I have actually been to weddings where I’m in the audience, sitting next to an ex-girlfriend of the groom who is up at the altar getting married. The groom and this ex-girlfriend are such good friends and have been only friends for so long (10+ years) that the groom never even bothered to tell his fiance about their sexual past. I’m not saying whether I agree with that or not, I’m just sharing what I’ve seen. And making it known that he probably didn’t tell his fiance for fear of having to let loose a friendship that is valuable to him. Again, I’m not saying whether or not that’s right or wrong… AGAIN, I’M NOT SAYING WHETHER OR NOT THAT’S RIGHT OR WRONG.

I’ve also seen situations where a girl has a “brother” or a very close male friend, and most people wouldn’t know that at one point in time, they did the “Happy Horizontal” or shared an intimate kiss. I even know a few women who (after many years) call the guy who de-virginized them their “brother,” because now they are friends and friends only, and have no urge at all to be anything more than just friends. I’ve even seen situations where a man and woman have children, and one of the Godparents is an ex of one of the parents, without the other parent even knowing about their sexual past, Why? Because all they see is the current friendship and it appears to be a happy, non-intrusive relationship. AGAIN, I’M NOT SAYING WHETHER OR NOT THAT’S RIGHT OR WRONG.

Now, I have also seen situations where a man and woman may have had a sexual encounter or a sexual relationship in the distant past, and now they are just friends. And they actually choose to share that with whomever they’re currently in a relationship with just so that no secrets are kept. I have seen that as well. AGAIN, I’M NOT SAYING WHETHER OR NOT THAT’S RIGHT OR WRONG.. In your opinion, do men & women have the ability to be friends and friends only, or is it a guaranteed, automatic that something sexual will happen in time, if given the right space and opportunity?

Your thoughts?

 

-Kel Spencer

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#SPENCERISM- Vagina 8.0

Posted: April 7, 2011 in I'm Saying. I just wanna know
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Ok, So…

I recently posed the question “Who is easier to understand, Men or Women?” Out of hundreds of replies, 2 people said Women, 3 people said neither, and I found that VERY INTERESTING. There were even a few dozen women who exclaimed, “Women don’t even understand Women!!” LoL!!! Some of them even said, “That’s why women don’t get along with each other. It’s true in Work environments, It’s true in families, It’s true in female prisons VS male prisons.” HA!! That is just hilarious to me. And these are women saying these things! It’s almost like women need to come with a manual and instructions… Like women are the complex species, LoL! I joke, I joke…

But what isn’t a joke is that I feel the exact same way. Here are a few examples:

Her: Babe, You hungry? What do you have a taste for?

Him: Ummm… How about Chinese?

Her: Meh, I don’t want Chinese.

Him: Ok, how about Italian?

Her: Nah, I just had that 2 days ago.

Him: Ok, so what do you want?

Her: I don’t know, that’s why I asked you   O_o

Her: Hey babe, what’s wrong? What happened at work today?

Him: *Sigh, Man, my boss is just getting on my nerves.

***Reverse

Him: Hey babe, what’s wrong? What happened at work today?

Her: *Sigh, *Tear drop… Nothing

Him: Babe, do you think I can still fit on this?

Her: Ha! Boy, if you don’t put that Large down and put on that XXL, I’mma beat you! You ain’t 21 anymore.

Him: Ha! You’re right. I’mma get my sexy back by the summer though, you watch!

***Reverse

Her: Babe, how do you think I look in this?

Him: *Deep breath, Ummm… I… I think that blue one looks better. I like you in the blue.

Her: You think I’m fat don’t you. Well, everybody can’t look like your little chicken head co-workers!!! You know what? That’s why I don’t like going out with you!

LoL! Of course some of those analogies were a bit extreme and animated…

Or were they?

The consensus on Men being easier to understand, BY NO MEANS, makes us the superior gender. Men being easier to read, BY NO MEANS, makes us better. But it does… well it SHOULD speak to a new approach that we all might want to take a look at. For example…

If I am a college and I offer finger painting as one of my courses, I’m almost sure that MOST of the students who take the class will get an A, And almost no one will fail. But if I offer Nuclear Physics, I’m going to have tutors, and extra help in place because I know that the complexity of that class will require me having extra reinforcements in place for those who truly want to pass. With that being said, do women deal with men in such a way that extra reinforcements are already in place to aid him in his understanding? Or is that even needed? Some women may say, “He has a mother, and maybe sisters and I’m sure he has female friends so he can learn all he needs to learn with them before I even meet him.” And that may or may not be true. But what I do know is, generally, women complain about men “Not getting it” or “Not understanding them” far more than men complain about women not understanding men. It makes me wonder if this female complexity is part of the reason (not all of it, PART OF THE REASON) why men typically take longer to commit. I know for a fact, if I was sitting in the registrar’s office, I’d pick finger painting, and phys ed waaaaaaay quicker than I’d pick  Thermodynamic Theory, but that’s just me!

So is it that A- Men are just not as smart? And we’re lazy? And we don’t want to put in the work that it takes to understand and truly cooperate with a woman? Or B- Do women NOT realize that the consensus is that they are more complex? Or C- Do women realize that the consensus is that they’re more complex, yet they still think it’s a man’s job to step his game up and she shouldn’t have to be patient with him and/or accommodate him in his trying to understand her?

Talk to me… Oh, and for those who like to call, e-mail, text, BBM me, etc… in regards to these topics, I’m no longer entertaining those. There’s a space below for you to share, laugh, debate, pose questions, challenge, etc… This is entertainment but it’s also a chance to learn and possibly help someone. So if you want to hit me privately about what I post, do it after you’ve already posted it here and YES you can do it anonymously. Not being mean or arrogant, just being Real. Ok, so let’s have it….

-Kel Spencer

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#SPENCERISM- What about us Men??

Posted: February 15, 2011 in I'm Saying. I just wanna know
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Either women are generally selfish on Valentine’s Day OR I need to expose myself to more women…

First off, I want to wish everyone a happy Post-Valentine’s Day! I also want to apologize for how long it’s been since my last post. As you know, I’m an artist first, so when duty calls I have to jump on it and that’s what I’ve been wrapped up in the most. But I apologize. Now let’s get down to business.

Whenever Valentine’s Day and/or a relationship’s Anniversary comes around, I tend to see more men actively involved in shopping and/or deep thinking and/or more of a hustle to prepare  a great day for their lady than I do women. Are there women out there who go all out for their man on these days? Of course there are! I know plenty of them. But it seems to me that I get more men coming to me saying, “Yo, If my girl is wondering what she should get me, tell her I want such and such…” or “Man, my girl got me the same ole such and such again.” Which shows me that the women are getting gifts and preparing something for the men but there’s a lack of thought and deeper meaning going into what these women are doing. And I know more females than males so that’s why it’s a bit disturbing. I actually posted the question on facebook and twitter yesterday in the form of “True or False: Women don’t really put much thought into what to get/do for their man on Valentine’s Day…“ And you can check out what was said… My Regular Facebook Page Or My Facebook Family Page.

It seems to me that food, lingerie, and sex were the most popular gifts from women to men. And women see no problem with that and some of them actually call cooking, and candles, and lingerie, and sex “Going All Out.” But in my opinion that is a good gift, and can make for an explosive evening but that doesn’t take very much thought. Now, I’m sure that some women always get flowers or always get candy from their man and if that’s true then I can feel your pain as well. I know for a fact that I have heard women say, “Valentine’s Day is for women, He shouldn’t get a gift from me on that day.” But I’ve NEVER heard a man say the inverse. I, personally, have been in situations where I’ve given a Valentine’s Day gift and got nothing in return. I didn’t feel like she was being selfish, since I didn’t do it for the purposes of getting something in return but it has happened. And to the credit of some of my supporters in the midwest, I know that you celebrate Sweetest Day which is a totally different case, so we’re obviously not talking about that. But in the large scheme of things, based on your own experience, and based on what you’ve seen here and on my Facebook wall, do you think Men are treated fairly on Valentine’s Day/Anniversaries? Or maybe you feel that men are treated more than fair and it’s the women who are treated unfairly. Talk to me…

Gimme your thoughts!!!!

-Kel Spencer

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#SPENCERISM- My Darling Nicki (Minaj)

Posted: January 17, 2011 in I'm Saying. I just wanna know
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“My little niece, Brooklyn… wants to be Nicki Minaj.

And I’m like… She shouldn’t even be SAYING ‘Minaj’.” ~Bizzle

Some of you know, some of you don’t but I am against criticizing my fellow artists (to a degree). I will not criticize any artists in this post either. However, I do have a question to ask….

If you have no idea who Nicki Minaj is, then there is something severely wrong. But some of you may not know who Bizzle is. Like me, Bizzle is a Proud Christian, who doesn’t label himself Gospel rap or Christian rap but his a man who loves God and Loves Hip Hop. I don’t thank that Bizzle and I have an identical approach towards the way we deliver, but the foundation is rather synonymous. Anyway, he recorded a song called “Plead With You” (Letter to Nicki). In the song, I believe the he is addressing a lot of the issues that some people may have with Nicki Minaj. I also believe that there are people out there who might label him as a hater or someone who stifles freedom of speech, freedom of expression, and a thing we know as artistic license. He says things like:

“..I don’t know you to tell you how to deliver your lyrics/

I’m just confirming what you should already feel in your spirit…“

 

“…How do you explain to one of your fans/

Why Barbie got her hands in another woman’s pants…“

 

“Ask yourself… If they followed in your foot steps,

Where would those foot steps take em?“

So basically, I’m asking you… Do you agree with Bizzle and you shut down the whole idea of Nicki Minaj (and any artists like her)? Do you show the youngsters under your influence how this is wrong and the entire symbolism of a artists like this can be negative and possibly plant seeds of evil?

Or do you think it’s just entertainment, and Bizzle is a hater because Nicki has more success than him? Are you the person who says that my child can listen to her and say her name and sing along but just as long as they don’t follow her foot steps?

Or are you a person who really doesn’t care either way, lol???

Bizzle- Please with you (Letter to Nicki)

Talk to me….

-Kel Spencer

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#SPENCERISM- Sex in the Fam, Smh…

Posted: January 6, 2011 in I'm Saying. I just wanna know
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As if my life wasn’t stressful enough, smh…

So… I have a very close male friend who is like a big brother to me, and a very close female friend who is like a little sister to me. I’ve known them each for about 17 years. Over the past 5 years, or so, each of them have had their own person relationships with people. I’ve seen my big bro deal with some females that had the whole hood asking, “Wow! Who is that?!?!”, one who is now a Porn…, excuse me, *ahem… an Adult Film Actress, one who I really think he messed up with and let her get away, one who makes a lot of money with the popular “Foster Parent” hustle, and one who is certified 730 and needs NOT be walking the streets freely and should be required to wear a straight jacket, and a muzzle… She’s Fine though, Man oh Man… Finer that frog hairs… I shalln’t lie!

And baby sis has pretty much dealt with a bunch of jerks, knuckleheads, lames and weirdos… And the whole time, I am the main person that each of them would come to for relationship advice… Now! After years of them hanging out at my crib, and all of us going to functions together, and them both coming to all of the “family” things we do, I found out that they are secretly dating and trying to figure out how to tell me.

The issue is, when they get together, how am I supposed to be fair as the person that they come to, when they call me up? I think what I wanna do is tell em, “Look! I love you both but if you decide to get together… A- IT BETTER BE SERIOUS!!! and B- You cannot come to me with issues about your relationship unless you come to me together at the same time for a sit down.” None of that “Yo, lemme tell you what your boy did” or “Son, your girl is buggin” talk. I hope this works out but I’m concerned that if it doesn’t it can mess up the dynamic of the entire family, ya know? Can you relate? Talk to me, people…

I know we keep pushing the date back but If you’ll be in the NYC area in Mid-Late February and would like to attend the soon coming FREE shoot/show, (Read What is #FPBK for details) please send a quick e-mail to 3HirdPowerEvents@gmail.com with “#FPBK Show/Shoot” as the title and info will be sent to you soon. In supporting this movement, you are indeed supporting me but more importantly, you’re supporting yourself…

But please, gimme your thoughts!!!!

-Kel Spencer

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#SPENCERISM- Muhammad Ali VS Obama?

Posted: December 9, 2010 in I'm Saying. I just wanna know
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I am a Black man. You never hear me talking about “Black Power” or “Down with Whitey” or any of that. But I can never denounce the fact that I am a Black man and love every part of it. I also cannot ignore the pressures that come with being a Black man in America. As I’m sure each person has their own respective issues to deal with based on their race, or religion, or gender. Anyway, with that being said, I look at the current times, the current state of affairs, and even our current president and try my best to make sense (both common sense and spiritual sense) of what goes on around me. I particularly like a certain group of individuals from the Bible called the Sons of Issachar (1 Chronicles 12:32) because they knew and understood the times.

With that being said, I came across a video clip of Muhammad Ali from 1971 40 years ago (which, ironically, is a Biblically prophetic/symbolic number) making a statement about being the first Black President. Some may look at his statement as entertaining. Some may look at his statement as educational. Some may say it’s borderline Prophetic… Check it out, it’s only 1 minute long:

For those of you who can’t view the video clip, I laid out a transcript below:

Michael Parkinson:

“I was reading a piece that Norman Mailer wrote about you very recently where it described you as the second most prominent American after Nixon. You might dispute that (laugh) but would YOU like to be president?”

Muhammad Ali:

“No… No Sir… Too Dangerous” [Audience Laughs] Like… In other words, Here’s a ship… People are dancing on the ship. A lot of money’s on the ship. A lot of food’s on the ship and I cannot integrate on the  ship. I cannot eat quality on the ship. I’m just in the galley working and I never could get up to see the captain of the ship. Now… All of the sudden, the man tells me, “Say… Come on down, Ali, out of the galley. I want you to come up here and… Here, have something to drink. What do you want?” And giving me number one spot… From the galley to the Number One spot… I say, this ship must be sinking [Audience Laughs] (Sarcastically) Why is he so nice to me now?? What moved him to call me up here?? Black men have been Mayors and now one might be the President. America’s on too much trouble, I don’t want that job NOW. [Audience Laughs] Something to think about, ain’t it?“

Well, ain’t it? I’m asking you! Talk to me, people…

 

Also, Check out my latest feature in XI Magazine… If you’ll be in the NYC area in Mid January and would like to attend the soon coming FREE shoot/show, (Read my last post entitled What is #FPBK for details) please send a quick e-mail to 3HirdPowerEvents@gmail.com with “#FPBK Show/Shoot” as the title and info will be sent to you soon. In supporting this movement, you are indeed supporting me but more importantly, you’re supporting yourself…

But please, gimme your thoughts!!!!

 

-Kel Spencer

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