What exactly is a lie?
A guy is on the phone with his girlfriend. While they’re on the phone his doorbell rings and it’s his pissed off Ex-girlfriend dropping off some his things that she found in storage. His now girlfriend naturally asks, “Who is that at your door, babe?” He replies with “Oh, it’s just one of my old friends.” Did he lie?
A female is sexually involved with a man. This man just happens to have a rather large ego. As a way to feed his ego and “please her man” she tells him that she his almost always sexually gratified when in actuality, she is hardly ever sexually satisfied but she loves him dearly and doesn’t really need to be pleased sexually as a means to be happy in a relationship. Yes she lied but was that wrong?
Some people say that a lie is whenever you’re being dishonest. Webster’s says that a lie is to make an untrue statement with intent to deceive or to create a false or misleading impression. Some people say “it depends.” What I want to know is, what exactly is a lie and is it ever ok to lie?
There are millions of children who believe in Santa Claus and a Tooth Fairy. Are we lying to them? And if so, are we wrong? So I ask you, have you ever been in any of these situations? And what would you say a lie is? And is it ever ok to lie or is it always wrong?
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Well this is a Good One!
I would say depending on the situation and the person. You may need to keep a low tone what you say. I myself, believe in telling the truth Why? because sooner or later telling a lie will sneak out of the dark and bite you. Once you are bit, your whole world could come rolling down. Bottom line, be up front and this way your light will always SHINE!!!
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The first scenario was not a lie, he just didn’t elaborate. The second one is a lie which in this case could possibly ruin the relationship…
I have to say…I always knew that I would not mis-lead my kids concerning the Santa Claus question…however their Dad (estranged)believes in it. Lies and deception are evil PERIOD! I have found that when people want to paint a picture and have to lie to perpetuate the fantasy, it means that they are lacking in self-worth and confidence. Tell the truth, it shows that you have nothing to hide *& not afraid of anyone’s opinion of you. Some lies may have to be told in a relationship, to save face, sometimes we don’t have a choice, we have to protect the one that we love!
I think you have to know what/ who you’re dealing with. The problem I have with scenerio 1 is that now girlfriend could find out from some other source that the ex was over and something that was quite innocent turns ugly because now girlfriend wonders why he wasn’t honest IN THE FIRST PLACE (not a yell:-)). Number 2. It’s part of the females code of conduct (take it to the grave). It still depends what the problem is.If it’s size cuz can’t help it (you can’t change his DNA). I never taught my kids about Santa Clause (the liked the story about the REAL St. Nick better, never mentioned the Easter Bunny (just bought a nice big basket of candy and goodies for Resurrection Sunday-Christianese)and and yes the tooth fairy tooth fairy bought many teeth until they old enough to just money to. The Bible says (I know but oh well that we are to “speak the truth in love”(Ephesians 4:15). I personally in being in truthful because lies catch up to you. Sooner or later.
A Lie is still a lie no matter how you try to correct what was said, just look at the affects that have come in return. As parents we tell the santa clause lie because that’s what We were told…but the intent was for us to lay a foundation for our (imagination), however sometimes they can run wild..The fairy tales have messed a lot of women up (emotionally) with the hopes of waiting on that night in shining armor to come and rescue them from their troubles…All (a lie) does is take you down the Path Of (A Reality Check!!!!)
Hey Kels..the 1st one..technically he didnt lie..it was an old friend..but he knew what she meant..when she said who..he chose the road..that would least cause an argument..by not saying exactly “WHO” as far as giving a name..next..as you stated she supposedly LOVED him..and being good in bed..isnt a factor..but really it was since she had to LIE..any way..sometimes..you have to let ppl know..what you want..how you want it..and what’s good & whats not..plain & simple..there are those that are ok..good..real good..and those that leave you speechless..& you should just keep it real day 1..if you ask you should be prepared for a real honest answer
..last one..Santa & Tooth Fairy was handed down..that’s it & that’s all..You can choose to go along or not..& it’s an individual thing as a parent.. as always KEEP IT MOVING in a positive flow as you always do .. JB 
Well,
I would say that a lie is, when you are keeping information from a person, knowing that the person would want to know.
so to use your first example. the guy said “Oh, it’s just one of my old friends.” knowing that if he would say “its my Ex-girlfriend” that there would be a chance that his girl would not like that. so he choose to avoid that. so he lied.
A female that is sexually involved the man. she lied yes, but I dont think it was wrong to lie. she is making him feel good. plus she doesn’t need to be pleased sexually to be happy in the relationship so no one gets hurt.
just like the kids believing in santa. kids to a certain age dont need to live by really. so till the time comes for them to face reality why should we deny them there happiness.
Marvin -love-
They both are. If there is no honesty there is no real relationship!