I’m not sure if it’s something that was placed in you by The Sky Chief Himself, or if it has more to do with conditioning or maybe a little bit of both but ummm…. some of you women REALLY have a crazy sense of entitlement. Notice I said “Some”of you. If I’m not ringing your doorbell, then don’t answer.
Guy and Girl meet, and after about a week of talking on the phone, no sex, and nothing intimate has taken place, the following went down:
Her: So when are you taking me out?
Him: I didn’t know I was taking you out.
Her: Oh, well excuse me!
Him: All good, you’re excused.
Her: Hmph, you’re something else
Him: How so?
Her: I just figured as a man, you should be making the initiative to see me.
Him: Well, as a man, why not LET me make that initiative… If I decided that’s an initiative I want to take. We just met and we’re still trying to get to…
Her: Woah!! Wow!! (mocking) IF you decide? Ha! Wow…
Him: Well, that’s not how I meant it but yes, If you claim that a man is supposed to be setting the tone in that area, shouldn’t he be allowed the time and space to do so rather than doing it the way YOU want it done?
Her: Whatever…
Now to be fair to the ladies, You are naturally designed to be receivers so I get it. And a lot of these dudes out here have burned you in past relationships so some of you want to get as much as you can on the front end to avoid being left without on the back end. But some of you… No, A LOT of you come with this built in “I’m supposed to have” attitude that needs to be checked.
Any of that sound familiar?? Or is it just me?
-Kel Spencer
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Sooooo true…… This Era of (1)- dating maybe yes maybe no mr. Right or mr. Right now (2) boyfriend/girlfriend (3) engagement if we pass (4) marriage (5) divorce or silver anniversary is a bit complicated……
It doesn’t sound familiar cause that’s not how I roll lol. Nah…for real though…a lot of women have this mentality. I think their is this pseudo “independent woman” mentality that’s really a “entitlement” mentality. If a woman is conversing with you she should know that you are not the shy type…and if you are feelin her, you will approach her. No one is entitled to anything but respect until a commitment is made and rings are on the fingers…and even then it should be more about accountability than entitlement.
funny…yeah, she was tripping, but it is kinda a no win situation…I met a guy recently and he kept asking me to come to his spot…I was sooo offended. I don’t care about going out, but don’t ask me to come to your spot for our 1st meeting/ “date”…if I come to your house and have no intentions of having sex then he would say “then what did you come over here for”…I definitely demand more respect than that…
well i feel thats not all women because sometime its on the other side women do for men
If the go out thing is asked then whoever proposed it is responsible for the bill and the evening, and i have had women ask me out and they picked me up and paid and took me home with them. Later on i did the same and thats called fair trade. Most of our educated sisters realize that if they ask U out pick U up they can drop yo a$$ of as soon as they want to or keep ya all night. These days some women are making more money then we men are and we have to let them feel thier power to get to thier soft side, and thats called respect!
MAN!!!! I go through this soooo much! WTH!! I mean, can’t we just friends without trying to get a relationship started?? lol
You titled the articles correctly- “Spoiled Bratz”..none of us owe each other anything…
Few people realize that friendship,companionship,concern,etc. are all elements of relationships that we enjoy but the fact is giving of these things is voluntary..in fact, relationships themselves are voluntary. We aren’t obligated to have them. Its a choice we make.
Many people never grow out of the childlike behavior that defined their younger years, during which they often whined and cried to obtain what they wanted, and because it is often “Acceptable” and even “cute” for children to behave this way, they maintained this behavior pattern. After all, it often successfully yielded them the results they wanted from their parents.
However, sulking, guilting, whining, etc.are not appealing behavioral characteristics in adults. There’s nothing cute about a grown man or woman pouting, demanding what they believe someone owes them.
In my humble opinion, the minute this behavior is spotted, it is a clear bright red flag that you have an overgrown baby on your hands. Proceed with caution.
Lastly, I believe that if you desire to have a certain experience in life, the person primarily responsible for you achieving that goal is YOU..no one owes u any particular experience..should they opt to give you things, cool, it’s their choice;however, people do not owe you anything in particular (unless they borrowed $ or an item from u and have yet to pay it back lol)
People who misuderstand the latter point and feel a sense of entitlement often set themselves up for severe disappointment in life, and face harsh lessons.
Bottom line, some grown people need to grow up. I say- increase your worth and life will match that value.
I know that this question was geared to the men, but I had to comment as a woman because I have a daughter with this mentallity so Yes, that sounds familiar, I’ve had to educate my daughter on that same attitude she is now 25 yrs old, and she has that attitude a sense of entitlement, I call it “The for me, To me, About me attitude” Alot of these women out here has that same attitude, I had to sit my daughter down in front of some women older, in their 60′s to explain to this young lady relationships and the different stages in a relationship, and what a young lady should expect and what not to expect. Boy was she thrown for a loop, and its not that in the past I haven’t tried to get her to understand she just thinks that I’m too old fashioned thinking, and that this isn’t the world that her generation lives in and that I don’t understand. I’ve explained to her that she doesn’t truly understand, her statement is “We have to be like this now, guys don’t take relationships serious so we have to nudge them along the way” “This isn’t’ the olden days when men took the initiative to be men” “Its not whining or none of that its just trying let them know they have to do for us especially if they want from us” All I have to say is GROW-UP LADIES GROW-UP!!!
You’re right, there’s no way around that. If the man is to ask a woman out, it’s up to him to decide when. Some men are nervous or unsure whether or not the woman they’re talking to is on the same page as them. Sometimes we give you guys a good reason to not bother to call, better yet take us out.
The “princess syndrome” can go for men and women. Since I decided to become place myself back “on the market” I’ve noticed that the mating game really hasn’t changed. When both genders stop acting out of fear of being “played” or stop worrying about who’s going to get what (either on the front or back end), things go so much better on both ends.